For any developing child, communication with adults and other children may prove difficult at first. Although we all learn how to communicate our feelings over time, children need special attention and care in this process. Because their vocabularies and sense of self are expanding every day, it’s important to help them down this particularly challenging path. Without guidance, a child can often feel helpless and be more prone to angry or frustrated outbursts. To instill communication and friendship between you and your child, there are a number of things you should consider first.
Keep Communication Positive
Parents can be a great source of encouragement for children. It can be a real challenge to always maintain positive communication! When children do something wrong, they’re more likely to grow upset if you respond with anger or frustration. No child is born inherently bad- tempered or rebellious; they pick up on the behaviors and mannerisms of the people around them. To better understand this, consider this simple scenario: A child has drawn on the walls with a crayon. A parent who yells and grounds a child for this act of rebellion is more likely to see the action repeated because the parental reaction makes the child feel like their independence is limited.
These kinds of situations call for a gentle but firm explanation of what’s appropriate and what’s not. You may have to take the crayons away, making it clear that they can only have them if they can abide by the rules of only drawing on paper rather than the walls.
Sometimes, It’s About Honesty
When you’re open and willing to talk with your child on their level, they will be more likely to do the same with you. Children respond best to positive cues and encouragement, so keep that in mind when you’re developing your child’s unique communication skills.