Conflict can be a confusing and frustrating time for parents and children alike. As a parent, you can help make sure that conflicts are resolved efficiently and within a certain time frame to maintain good relationships. Conflict-resolution skills in children are also important for teamwork tasks at school, and in their extracurricular activities as well. By working on a mediation plan and helping your child resolve conflicts with both their siblings and peers, you’ll be able to encourage them to develop a healthy sense of conflict resolution that will serve them well long into the future.
If Your Child has been in a Fight, Resolve it Quickly
Because children are so deeply effected by the words of their peers, serious arguments and fights are commonplace among them. Whether it was a trivial or a serious dispute, always remember that an open line of communication is a good route to take. Don’t be overly angry, but don’t be too subdued, either. Let your child know that their behavior was unacceptable, and that they must do anything they can to repair the damage they have caused. If they refuse to cooperate, then you might have to engage in a disciplinary action to get your message across clearly and firmly. This is where the real parenting comes in. Unless a child understands the gravity of conflict, they will never learn how to resolve it with their words, which are always better than fists.
Your stance on matters such as these, especially anytime the fighting has become serious, must be clear and firm while at the same time understanding and gentle.
Have a Family Meeting if the Problems Are Internal
If your children are having issues among each other (or with you), it is imperative that you keep the lines of communication open. Don’t pick sides or, if the fight involves you, don’t grow angry or frustrated at a child’s opinion. Calmly explain to all parties involved that there are better ways to resolve these issues, and try to come to agreement among your family members.